Why is finding a sitter one of the hardest task on earth? If you are like me you don't like to wear out all your options. So I don't like asking my parents or sisters every weekend to watch Camden. Or friends who I know have kids too. I hate it actually.
Then their is hiring a babysitter. This idea seems great. They can either come to you or you can take the kid to them. But even with that there is money involved. Usually I need a babysitter for a long time frame. If I'm doing anything for less than two hours I don't mind bringing Camden along for the ride. But do you know how much an all day babysitter cost? A LOT! A heck of a lot.
Of course the more reasonable and practical option would be his father. His father could watch our child since his father can't afford to pay any of our child's bills. I mean makes sense to me right. You can't help on that end so why not help on this one. Now granted I don't want to man bash, but I'm sick of it. And you guys know already that I'm doing this alone so hey! But when I ask him to pick up the slack for me and babysit you know what he says "sure Erica". Then in two days when I have to come back and remind him (yes I have to remind a 33 year old man of his responsibilities), he then says that something has come up and he can't do it.
Like really? I don't ask for much. I really don't. Most mothers ask for or want more than half of the sum of what the child cost. All I want is a break here and there and for you to do what you say you are going to do! That's it!!! Nothing more or less. But I can never get that. And it stresses me out. If I couldn't do something for someone in one area I would try to make up for that in others. But I guess he doesn't think like that.
One of my really great friends made a valid point when discussing this today. Not only do we end up having to foot the bill for the babysitter or the bill of pride by asking yet again another family member to step in on their behalf. But we are also making up to our kids. I spend my weekends taking Camden out. Experiencing new things with him. So if he doesn't show up or can't babysit that's more money out my pocket I'm using to cover your behind.
For example I have a VERY important meeting this weekend. And of course this is Kodi's weekend with Camden (hence the reason why I made the arrangements for this weekend). But he tells me today that he now can't get Camden and he will get him next week. There are two things wrong with this story. 1.) I make plans with him and other friends on "My Weekend". So this has now put me in a bind and changed my calendar going forwards 2.) now I have to come up with something to do with him to keep him out the house and entertained and come out the pocket to cover for a babysitter for my meeting.
Granted I know two awesome babysitters but I'm tired of paying for lack of responsibility. I'm tired of picking up your tab. You can't get him because you are busy??.... Well you were busy a whole four months when you were MIA and nowhere to be found. Can't you be not busy when you say you aren't.
To sum this up....if you know any great babysitters that are cheap, please forward me their contact info lol...NO BUT SERIOUSLY!
Why is finding a sitter one of the hardest task on earth? If you are like me you don't like to wear out all your options. So I don't like asking my parents or sisters every weekend to watch Camden. Or friends who I know have kids too. I hate it actually.
Then their is hiring a babysitter. This idea seems great. They can either come to you or you can take the kid to them. But even with that there is money involved. Usually I need a babysitter for a long time frame. If I'm doing anything for less than two hours I don't mind bringing Camden along for the ride. But do you know how much an all day babysitter cost? A LOT! A heck of a lot.
Of course the more reasonable and practical option would be his father. His father could watch our child since his father can't afford to pay any of our child's bills. I mean makes sense to me right. You can't help on that end so why not help on this one. Now granted I don't want to man bash, but I'm sick of it. And you guys know already that I'm doing this alone so hey! But when I ask him to pick up the slack for me and babysit you know what he says "sure Erica". Then in two days when I have to come back and remind him (yes I have to remind a 33 year old man of his responsibilities), he then says that something has come up and he can't do it.
Like really? I don't ask for much. I really don't. Most mothers ask for or want more than half of the sum of what the child cost. All I want is a break here and there and for you to do what you say you are going to do! That's it!!! Nothing more or less. But I can never get that. And it stresses me out. If I couldn't do something for someone in one area I would try to make up for that in others. But I guess he doesn't think like that.
One of my really great friends made a valid point when discussing this today. Not only do we end up having to foot the bill for the babysitter or the bill of pride by asking yet again another family member to step in on their behalf. But we are also making up to our kids. I spend my weekends taking Camden out. Experiencing new things with him. So if he doesn't show up or can't babysit that's more money out my pocket I'm using to cover your behind.
For example I have a VERY important meeting this weekend. And of course this is Kodi's weekend with Camden (hence the reason why I made the arrangements for this weekend). But he tells me today that he now can't get Camden and he will get him next week. There are two things wrong with this story. 1.) I make plans with him and other friends on "My Weekend". So this has now put me in a bind and changed my calendar going forwards 2.) now I have to come up with something to do with him to keep him out the house and entertained and come out the pocket to cover for a babysitter for my meeting.
Granted I know two awesome babysitters but I'm tired of paying for lack of responsibility. I'm tired of picking up your tab. You can't get him because you are busy??.... Well you were busy a whole four months when you were MIA and nowhere to be found. Can't you be not busy when you say you aren't.
To sum this up....if you know any great babysitters that are cheap, please forward me their contact info lol...NO BUT SERIOUSLY!