Ummmm GROW UP! It's like it want to scream it from the mountain top! GROW UP! It's simple. I'm 27 with a toddler boy, I had to grow up so why don't you. It sorta makes me upset (can you tell?) when people come to you with drama. I have way too much on my plate right now for this "he said/she said" madness.
I was talking to one of my really good friends the other day and he schooled me on weak minded people. And I didn't realize there were so many of them out there. People who only want to gossip, hold on to high school arguments, be bullies, start drama, and cave into being a "mean girl".
Am I the only one over that phase in my life? I had a baby and said, "who cares about any of that". I don't gossip or judge anymore. I grew up. If someone calls me with gossip I'm fast to say "oh I don't really wanna hear that". I'm not sure if motherhood changed me or what. But I do believe that everyone has their own moment when they just decide to grow up.
Now let me be honest, it took me a long time to get to this point. What you may not know about me is that I am very opinionated. I also say what I think and I have no cut cards. BUT that doesn't make me any less mature it just makes me brutally honest and opinionated. And there is nothing wrong with those things.
Let me give you an example about what im dealing with. There was this girl I hated! Since high school. Don't ask me why, it was so long ago and I honestly don't know why. I believe it started with her liking my boyfriend at the time and grew from there. To make a long story short....I grew up! And went to her and told her that I didn't want to harbor these ill feelings against her anymore (the look on her face was priceless because I don't think she ever had a problem with me...I was crazy back then lol) and now we are very cordial and I would say she's a friend. But someone called me and wanted to gossip about her. I said "oh we are cool now, so I don't really want to hear that and I don't have anything to say".
That put things in perspective for me. A lot of the people around me haven't grown up. I have friends (very few thank God) that are like this. They enjoy looking into someone else's life and judging them. Laughing at their shortcomings. I don't want to get screenshots of someone and dish on how horrible they are. I don't want to cyber stalk a person to look for their flaws. I'm done writing in the "Slam" book!
It goes beyond that though! Now you have the nerve to be mad at me? Mad at me because I don't want to be that person anymore. Mad because I decided to be a better person. Or because I decided that I wouldn't join you in your drama. WELL BE MAD! I honestly don't care. Be mad and then reflect on this in a few months and let this be your "Ah Ha" moment! Let this be the moment when you decide to grow up!