Am I the only one that wants to witness everything their child does for the first time? No, but I mean EVERYTHING that they do. I once got emotional because Camden's dad took him to the zoo for his first trip, without me. By emotional I mean I threw a fit. I was so upset. I didn't get to see his expressions or excitement. But Camden's dad never gets to share first with him. I guess that makes me selfish. Well guess what I don't care. I've been called selfish a few times by a few different people. (Picture we saying that as I roll my neck and my eyes).
When I dropped Camden off for his first day of daycare I told the sitter "listen I know Camden will have a lot of first moments here, please don't tell me about them. I want to pretend that his first steps were with me and not here with you." Is that insane? I don't think so and if it is I don't care. I was so serious about it. I got in my car and after I cried my eyes out all the way to my first day back at work, I felt better that I knew I wouldn't miss a beat in his life. (Even if I was kidding myself).
But you want to know the icing on the cake? I was going on a weekend trip and my parents were going to watch Camden. And we had just got him a potty. Nowhere near potty training time but it's good to have one around early to get them use to it. But this was the stage in Camden's life where he liked to poop in the tub. So freaking gross. As soon as I turned my back to put his clothes in the hamper, he was pooping. I would be so mad. Like furious. Not just because I had to clean it up but because I had to then also soak the bath toys. Sooooo annoying.
But anyway, they didn't want Cam pooping in their tub so my mom goes "I'm just gonna put him on the pot when I think he's about to go". I almost took her head off! What do you mean you are going to put him on the pot? I've never seen him use the pot before and I'm definitely not going to miss the first time while I'm away on a weekend trip. I told her "why would you do that? I'm going to miss his first time. I can't miss his first time on the pot." My father then intervened on the conversation. Anyone who knows my father knows that from that point this wouldn't end well. He starts telling me what I already know "you are selfish, inconsiderate, and ungrateful". The ungrateful word he throws in during every argument. So that one sorta just went in one ear out the other. But I was furious. I walked out the room and literally cried about the whole thing. A 26 year old crying over a potty.
I got myself together and went back in there and told them that I understood. I wouldn't be able to see every first moment. That it is unrealistic for me to think that I will. And my mom goes, "then maybe you should just make him use the potty before you go"! Just like that problem solved. I get my first moment and they get a clean tub.