A guy writes into the radio the other day to ask if it would be too much to offer to pay for his date's (single mother) babysitting fee. He thought that maybe it would come off as him doing the most and he didn't want to do that. But felt like it would be a nice gesture.
The men on the station thought it was doing too much. That he would look like he was coming on too strong. The one mother (married) thought it was the nicest thing ever. Then the dating, younger guy on the show said that until you meet the kids you shouldn't pay for the sitter.
What do you guys think? I have personally been offered to have my babysitting fee covered when on a date. And it made me look at that guy totally different. I first thought, what a completely nice gesture. Babysitters aren't cheap by any means. He asked me before we ever even went out. He said because he was pulling me from my responsibily and because he wanted to be able to spend as much time with me as he could that he would cover the hourly cost of my sitter. The normal hourly cost is about $10. We went to dinner and to the movies bringing my bill to a total of like $60/$70 dollars. When we met up he handed me that much cash and said if he went over the 6 hours he'd cover the rest as well.
I think it's freaking awesome. It's not something that I would demand or ask for. But it's the best gesture a guy can show to a single mom. For one we are having to struggle with just finding a sitters and if you're like me your going to your free options first. Two, if the date goes well who wants to cut it short because your sitter is $10 an hour? Not me. (Not to say let's run up his pockets either but I'm just saying leaving the ball in his court takes the pressure off of you). Three, even if you say no it shows that he's a true gentleman and is taking your time seriously. He must feel like your time is vital and he respects that.
Which leads me to another point. Why do guys who know you have children act so upset when you don't have all the free time in the world? I hate dealing with guys like that. I just generally cut those guys out the moment the issue surfaces.
I had a guy ask me when I was going to start making time for him. He said that I never had the time to see him. Well I told him that I don't always. I have a child. He proceeds to ask me can I come see him now. I tell him no because I have Camden. He then goes "u can make a way". What! Do you hear yourself? I have my son, no I can't make a way. You clearly can't come over because you are not the type I would introduce my son to, and two you're pissing me off so why would I want to make a way anyhow. Then he really gets mad and says "and the BS continues". Oh and y'all know I was pissed off then. I responded back with "oh because I won't make a way to see you? Well yes that will continue because no guy who treats me like this or no guy period will EVER come before my child". And you know what he said "smh you just don't get it" ....
Well no sir I don't get it. How could I? You want me to pack up my child, send him to somebody's house on a humble just to come and chill with you for a few hours. Well guess what, NO! I don't just throw my son to a babysitter every chance I get. And I'm not gonna start now just because you called. It's just crazy to me. And I know there are girl who would have thought "oh my gosh he really must miss me, let me call my friend to see if she can watch my son". Well no! If he really cared or had any sense he wouldn't even ask me to do something like that. And even if he did he would have understood if I said no.
Guys are crazy. Maybe some of them just shouldn't date women with kids. Just that simple.